Yesterday I spent cleaning my house, doing scads of laundry and baking bread(which was followed by much eating of bread ....MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....)
Brianna gave me a call after dinner time(which was more bread)and i met her at mermaids for a nice drink, chat and people watching. the red hat ladies were there, and i was much amused by their karaoke antics and red and purple costumes. When i grow old i intend to wear bright costumes and sing bad renditions of old songs. can you imagine, our generation will look back fondly on the romantic ballads of Britney spears and Justin timberlake. Picture yourself, old gray and hopefully distinguished, but more likely sagging, singing sexy back. its almost sickening.
My Grandmother sent Robin and I to a concert sometime a couple years ago. It was a band playing old favorites from her era. I swear robin and i were the youngest people there....by about 50 years. I was sitting next to this very old frail woman who made mention of that fact and felt obligated to inform me of some of the history of the band. she was a wonderful old woman. very interesting. When the music played she swooned. The first song had apparently been one she remembered dancing with her husband to. she leaned into me, her eyes lite up as she rocked back and forth in some long forgotten dance step.
"She what you missed" she said. "It was such a romantic time." and i did feel that i had missed something. Sure today when i go out dancing, i don't have to worry that perhaps the boy I'm dancing with is leaving for war come the next morning, but instead of sweet nothings whispered into my ear, i get propositioned and two impatient hands groping my ass hoping to find a swift entrance into my pants. Is romance dead? And if it is, are we fine with that? Maybe I'm naive to think that it wasn't like this in my grandmothers day, because,quite honestly, I'm sure that men have always been focused on sex. Id like to go out dancing and not feel like any indication of interest could be taken as a promise of sexual favours. I've gotten quite good at dogging interested men or making myself look uninterested.
Wow, that turned into a rant. really, I just intended to say that when i grow old i want to be laid back and enjoy myself. I want to look back fondly on my past, but i want to be still enjoying the life I'm living.
With that said, i will repose my former question: Is Romance dead? And if it is, are we fine with that? Make me believe if you can. I don't want to be so cynical.
much love to you all. I'm excited to spend much of this early holiday season with you all.
Lisa
Saturday, November 24, 2007
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i don't think romance is dead. it is there at least in small gestures.
examples...
in grade 12 , i had to friends who where together. it was their anniversary or something.. and in the middle of french class the boy with a big bouquet of roses came in all dressed in suit and gave it to her.*warm* fuzzies. it was such a good surprise.
my first boy friend walked all the way from his house( which was 1/2 way across town) to bring me a card that he had made me.
i think taking a moment with someone, and just dancing, with no music and in the middle on nowhere special is romantic...
i guess it really depends on your own personal perception of romance.
I agree with Lisa V.
However, I also agree that romance has definitely changed over the years. It doesn't seem to be as important now because, as opposed to say, 50 odd years ago, today life is more about getting in someone's pants (to many people) and not so much about finding someone to spend the rest of your life with.
Granted, we all know how I feel about young people such as ourselves trying desperately to find someone to spend the rest of our life with...
Romance ain't dead in the least says Jilly. Little subtleties and compliments are always romantic in my eyes, like saaaay when a certain boy is "inebriated" and slow dances with his mushball of a girlfriend and quietly sings "Come What May" from Moulin Rouge. Sure, he may not remember said moment, but mushball does... and she giggles everytime she thinks of it ;)
Romance is much less glamourous now though, and that makes me sorta sad. Oh well, I shall enjoy this odd new age romance for what it's worth.
In other news, I love your writing Lisa. I look forward to reading your books, plays and so forth in the future =)
Great work, thank you and have a good weekend
I think romance didn't die, it's just evolved. Browbeaten by the trails of time and modernization, it still remains alive and well in the more minute aspects of social experience. It's no longer roses on the first date and slow dances that make you feel significant. . . its become more so someone checking your Facebook for your favorite movie and renting it for you.
Though, it could be argued that really romance is the human equivalent of a mating ritual, and has always intended as a gatekey to ones pantaloons. . . It's really all a matter of perspective.
Romance.... I miss romance. I do believe it exists, in small ways. but i definately think that its being lost.
its nice to focus on everyones good sides. very uplifting.
I like my eyes and my hands
and i like my quiet peacefulside but that im somtimes obnoxious
Romance exists.
Just not for the single pessimests
or the stupid couples.
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